Drivers and Passengers

At midnight of March 31st, I finally finished reading David Cottrell‘s Monday Morning Leadership: 8 Mentoring Sessions You Can’t Afford to Miss. That took me a while; I received the book from Avon Canada’s Fire Up Your Future Training Event half a year ago. I was so excited to get started on it so I can do better with my Avon business, but there was just too much going on in my life at the time. I discovered, however, that business books aren’t just for boosting leadership and business management skills.

Business books provide insight into our lives and how we manage it. Most of the ideas and lessons on building or managing a business can be translated to personal development. And so I shall outline what I took away from reading Cottrell’s book.

Cottrell divided his book into 8 chapters equivalent to the 8 mentoring sessions he has had with Tony Pearce in the beginning of his journey to success. This is “The First Monday: Drivers and Passengers”.

[U]ntil you accept total responsibility–no matter what–you won’t be able to put plans in place to accomplish your goals

If you are like me, dealing with depression or any mental illness can be overwhelming. It could be the reason for many setbacks in life, but it could also be just an excuse sometimes. Pearce says, “don’t feel sorry for yourself. That’s a waste of valuable time. Just make plans to make things better. [. . .] it’s not too late to change.”

I know how mental illness can be paralyzing. I know how difficult some days are. Days when you sleep too much or sleep too little. Days when you can’t get out of bed. Days when you can’t take a shower. Days when you eat a lot or eat nothing.

I also know that there are good days. Days when you’re ready to face everything. Days that may be far between, but days that still come.

And when those days come, you better make sure you make the most out of it!

[W]hen you accept total responsibility for whatever happens, you make adjustments. [. . .] When  you accept responsibility, you focus on this time forward–on the future. [. . .] you have control over how you react to situations.

None of us chose to have a mental illness, but all of us have the choice to let it control us or to make ourselves control it. How we react to our condition dictates how well we fight in this battle.

No one else can make us feel better except ourselves. Of course “[s]eeking an outsider’s advice is a good move. We all need people who will help us look at situations from a different perspective.” But for someone to be able to help us, we have to reach out to them. By accepting total responsibility of our mental health, we make the adjustments we need to get better.

When your good days come, don’t just sit on the passenger’s side and let everything pass you by. Take hold of the wheel and drive yourself to a better you. Eventually, your good days will come more often. Focus on the road ahead of you, not on the distractions.

Love always,


Next week: “The Second Monday: Keep the Main Thing the Main Thing

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